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WEB SITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION…

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WEB SITE UNDER CONSTRUCTION…

Hello! I have been on hiatus since March. We have been reworking the website. Be watching for updates at www.rdrnevara.com

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Take a Leap

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Take a Leap

Take a Leap February 2016 is a Leap Year. Because of that, all month long the word, “leap” has continued to leap to mind. It dawned on me how many phrases and idioms we have in our language that use that word. Look Before You Leap This month I thought about how important it is to look before you leap. It is amazing the spots I’ve gotten myself into for not doing that. Those impulsive moments caused some areas of my life to change by leaps and bounds. Change is a fickle thing… sometimes it’s for the better, sometimes it poses immense challenges, BUT it is always interesting and necessary. Leaps of Joy, Leaps of Faith, Quantum Leaps In the past, as well as currently, I continue to take leaps of joy and leaps of faith, both of which are necessary to grow and evolve into the person, the Soul, I hope to become. I am a work in progress continually striving to make that quantum leap in personal growth. Heart Leaps from Your Chest Of course let it not be forgotten that this month also celebrates Valentine’s Day when, for some people, their hearts feel like they leap from their chests at seeing loved ones. Long ago, in my younger years, I did leap at the chance when I thought I found love. I loved for a while. It’s so interesting when things fall apart, and the mind leaps to the conclusion that it all disappeared. I still wonder when love is not there anymore, where does it really go? I can’t remember the last time I celebrated Valentine’s Day in that giddy, heady Love Rush-Passion Blush way, but back when I was leaping in with both feet, this was a special holiday that held total bliss for me. I think I feel a non-Hallmark, belated Valentine’s Day poem coming on… Bliss a well wish your deep, long, wet kiss never having to miss you seeing your handsome face being taken in your love-embrace oh, God! How you make my heart race! the excitement I feel is so very real when you peel the clothes off my body the way you taste my legs wrapped around your waist nothing done in haste master-of-love the sound of your voice leaves me no choice but to surrender to you… completely taken away by the bliss of you “Bliss” from Love and Other Disappointments, by R.D.R. Nevara...

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2016, a Year for Endings and Beginnings

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2016, a Year for Endings and Beginnings

I wait until the end of the month to do my blog post. I prefer viewing from hindsight… you know what they say, “It’s 20/20”. However, it is also a function of having more to write about at the end of the month than at its outset. In addition to that, for the past few months, I have commented on how fast the time has gone. I don’t know if time is accelerating, or if I’m slowing down. Given my age, it may just be me. Most months I have collected enough experiences by the end to have something to write about, muse upon. This month, not so much. Like most folks, I follow what’s going on in the news… lots of politics in our faces right now. One of my friends always says that one should never discuss religion, sex or politics if there is a desire to avoid an argument. So, I won’t go there. I don’t have anything earth-shattering or insightful to add to the fray, other than, if Trump gets elected, I’m moving to a different country. I thought about not doing a blog post this month, but it is a habit I need to discipline myself to keep. January welcomed in the year, 2016, which has been pointed out as being a “9 year”. That means that, in study of numerology, when you add all of the digits in 2016 together they equal the sum of 9. The number 9 in numerology is about the completion of a cycle… with the ending of one cycle being the beginning of the next. And, since we are wading into the metaphysical, or as my friends would say, “Rosie, your New Age Woo-woo side is showing,” there is also the astrological connection between the number 9 and the sign of Scorpio. Scorpio is an extremely intense sign that is about the right use of power, birth, death, rebirth and transformation. So, with what we are seeing happening nationally and internationally, this may well be an intense year in which many cycles come to an end thereby leaving room for new beginnings, where the use or misuse of power is emphasized, and where we see major transformations in many arenas. My hope is that the transformations are positive. Normally, right about now something in the blog post would have given me pause for thought about one poem or another, and I would be writing, “I think I feel a poem coming on…” Not tonight. I will close with wishes to all for an outstanding 2016....

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Time at the Speed of Light

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Time at the Speed of Light

Time at the Speed of Light WOW! It is December 31, 2015! This year has surely passed by at the speed of light. I blinked, and it was gone! Perhaps it is a function of getting older. When I was a child, days seemed like weeks, weeks seemed like months, months seemed like years. What happened? Perhaps it is the fast-paced lifestyles we all lead keeping ourselves busy all hours of the day and night seven days a week. Then again, there have been rumblings in the world of metaphysics that time is accelerating. Of course, time is a linear construction devised by humans to help us make sense of our lives. Regardless of the reasons, this year flew by much too quickly. Resolutions vs. Real Solutions My Soul Coaching Mentor, Kelly Chamchuk, has a play on words when it comes to New Year Resolutions. She suggests that instead of making resolutions, it is far better to come up with real solutions. I think she is brilliant! I have another dear friend, Judith, who instead of making New Year Resolutions, picks a word to focus on for the entire year. She develops a deep relationship with her word of choice, and makes an effort to learn as much as she possibly can from it. In 2016, her word is “Truth”. She will explore truth in all of its manifestations with the most focused attention being on speaking her truth and living her truth. A Combination Plate Following in the footsteps of both of these women, for whom I have great admiration, my plan for 2016, is to work on real solutions to make changes in my life that I want and need to make. My focus word for the New Year is “Boundaries”. It appears that I have a full plate to consume and digest. A Wondrous 2016 to All I hope you all have had a chance to review your 2015, taking note of the successes and lessons. May your 2016 be full of all of the things for which you hope. May your 2016 carry lessons that are quickly learned and appreciated… even when difficult. May your 2016 be handsomely peppered with the gifts of joy and love. I think I feel a poem coming on…   You Are a Gift With you I run the full gamut of emotions With you I am allowed to flow like an ocean from the darkest night into the brightest light You allow me to feel You make me real You bring out the best version of me With you I am allowed to imagine With you I am allowed to dream You make all things seem possible You allow me to feel You make me real You bring out the best version of me Thank you for sharing the essence of you Thank you for all you do You are a Gift who helped lift me out of the darkness into the light “You Are a Gift” from Love and Other Disappointments by R.D.R. Nevara...

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Food for Thought and Giving Thanks

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Food for Thought and Giving Thanks

So, hunger is on my mind, and it’s not because I didn’t have a Thanksgiving meal and leftovers. I have not been pondering physical hunger. Musing over the ideas of emotional, sexual, mental, psychological and spiritual hunger have been sparked by a series of conversations I have been having with a friend who is absolutely brilliant. He is a deep thinker with a breadth of wisdom obtained through living life to its fullest. He carries a diversity of experiences which he has relished as he feasted upon them, filling himself up in order to feed his ravenous hunger for life… his huge appetite for living, learning and loving. Bon appétit, my friend! Food of Life One of our conversations took us down a road exploring the idea that – music with amazing lyrics is the Food of Life. Those thoughts took us to themes so often found in lyrics. Our chat meandered down the paths of love and longing… the longing for love, finding it then looking for a way out… “Fifty Ways to Leave Your Lover”. This particular winding trail caused him to query, “So, are we all hiding then? It’s the traveling not the arrival which is the prize. It’s the longing and fantasy without the commitment or the stale taste of familiarity.” I told him I was going to use that observation as a quote in a poem, and that I’d give him credit for it. Food for Thought Mulling over what he had said took my mind onto a side trail where I started thinking aloud about living backwards. Everything is always so clear in retrospect, “Hindsight is 20/20”… isn’t that the old adage? Merlin had it right… he lived backwards. Merlin grew young instead of old. What an advantage to have the wisdom of experience when starting out instead of when you are getting ready to step off of the planet. Following my commentary, my friend piped up showing the depth of his wisdom, “But look at all the roads you may not have traveled, all the adventures missed, all the promises – even if unfulfilled – leading to secret gardens, playing with us like dolphins. I wouldn’t take the knowledge. I would have missed too much emotionally and even physically. I want my dance, Honey.” Now how can one possibly argue with that thought line? He is grateful for all of the experiences, all of the lessons. Giving Thanks I think it is important to carry gratitude in your heart and express your gratitude to others whenever the opportunity arises. I know, I know… as edgy as my poetry is, you wouldn’t have expected that of me, but it’s true. This time of year, as we find the Winter Solstice is just around the corner, I like to ponder my navel, and besides looking for lint, I like to think about the experiences of the past year, and all of the things for which I am grateful. Usually I share a poem at the end of each blog post, but in this post I want to share my gratitude. I am grateful for my family, for my friends – who are my family of choice, for all of you who read my posts and have supported my book. I offer up many, many thanks for all of your...

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Tsunami!

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Tsunami!

Tsunami I am still in the throes of processing and revisiting the activities I did through the month of September when I worked with a Soul Coaching group. Not surprisingly, I am still musing on the work we did with the element of water during Water Week, so I am piggy-backing on last month’s post. Water is connected to emotions and relationships. As mentioned in September, Water Week was an intense study for me. If you know my work, you know all kinds of things came up and still are coming up. Water – H2O We are water. We come from water. Water is associated with the feminine… yielding, enfolding, cleansing, life-giving flow. All women have an intimate relationship with water – the pull of the moon, the tidal ebb and flow of menses. As mammals, we are suspended, cradled and rocked in water until we come into this world as our mothers’ birth-waters gush forth like a tsunami, and with a final heave, we are pushed into this earthly realm. Our connection to water is deep and ancient. The Consciousness of Water The eminent Dr. Masaru Emoto’s work experimenting with water to discover if it responds to emotionally charged words is groundbreaking. His work serves to make us more aware of the magic of water, and even to consider the possibility of water being sentient. Personally, I would venture to say that water has its own form or awareness, of consciousness. It is no wonder water is associated with emotions… tears of anger, tears of pain, tears of laughter, tears of joy, cleansing tears, healing tears. Everybody into the Pool! Ponds, lakes, streams, rivers, seas, oceans… water is everywhere! Whether being involved in water play, or playfully exploring relationships, being a risk-taker, I have never been one to hold back. Instead of sticking my toe in to test the water, and then wading in to go for a swim, I have always been the one to dive in head first. My experience has been that, what sometimes looks like smooth, clear, rejuvenating water, ends up being a tsunami in disguise. I think I feel a poem coming on… My Very Own Tsunami There was no siren, no warning wail no winds, no storm patterns of an impending gale before you arrived You, my very own Tsunami You stormed into my life, you, a typhoon of passion engulfed me like an ocean You – mind, body, heart, soul – came in like waves and flooded my emotions You, my very own Tsunami I never saw you coming, you caught me, drown me with your devastating glance Caught up in your torrent, rolled and tumbled, I never stood a chance against you, my very own Tsunami At sea, totally adrift in you I let myself forget what storms can do You, my very own Tsunami Just like the tide, you rushed in, and back out In your wake was my destruction, no doubt You, my very own Tsunami You sucked me in and swept me away and just like the tide, you couldn’t stay You, my very own Tsunami Your love, and you are gone – no more wax, only wane Now, I’m left drowning, gasping, trying to breathe through the pain of my own personal Tsunami “My Very Own Tsunami” from Love and...

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Soul Coaching? Sole to Soul? Kintsugi! Soul to Soul…

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Soul Coaching? Sole to Soul? Kintsugi! Soul to Soul…

So, Soul Coaching®, you said? I just had the most amazing month. I have spent the last 28 days participating in a series of activities lead by a mentor called a Soul Coach. Over a period of 4 weeks, we were led through activities connected with the 4 elements and learned how all of them relate to the Soul. Week one was air/intellect, all things mental; week 2 – water/emotions; week 3 – fire/spirit; and finally week 4 – earth/physical, the body. It was an amazing and healing journey assisted by the astute and careful attention and guidance of Kelly Chamchuk, our extremely gifted Soul Coach. This month has been full of life-changing experiences. I highly recommend getting involved in a Soul Coaching® group to anybody who is looking to do some deep work in self-discovery, self-examination, self-understanding, self-love and healing. Sole to Soul? Water Week, being the week when we delved into emotions, was the most intense for me. We had the opportunity to explore emotions and relationships. If you know my work at all, you can easily imagine that all kinds of things came up. I ended up revisiting an exercise we did called, “Turning Points”, and the whitewater rapids of Water Week jettisoned me back into Air Week into an exercise we did called, “Faults and Virtues”. I found myself thinking about my relationships as being Sole to Soul… I got stepped on a lot. For a long time – too long, I carried a sense of being wounded, damaged, and broken. In an effort to change my point of view remembering that, if you change the way you look at something, the thing you are looking at will change, I started foraging around in my memory trying to find a positive spin. That’s when Kintsugi came to mind. Kintsugi! Kintsugi is the Japanese practice of acceptance, and the valuing of something that is broken thereby embracing its imperfections. In this tradition, an object is repaired with gold, silver, or lacquer tinted with gold or silver to highlight the wear, chips, cracks, breakage, accepting them as events in the life of the item. To me, this practice is a celebration of life experiences showing that they may have caused damage, wounds… breakage, but the object – it – we – are more beautiful for having lived through the experiences. If we can become like the Kintsugi artists working with love and compassion on our chinks, chips and breaks, we can heal our very Souls. Soul to Soul… In the end, I realized that all healing is really self-healing. Whether looking at it through the lens of healing fostered by the unconditional love of a Soul Mate, or viewing it as healing yourself to the point where you love and connect with your Divine Self romancing your own Soul in a deeper Rumi-esque manner, it’s all about healing Soul to Soul. I think I feel a poem coming on… Soul to Soul I always know you’re coming, even before you get here You push the air – move the energy in all directions I don’t need to see you to know you are near I sense your arrival, we have that kind of connection Your Soul, My Soul – connected I sense your Glow, your Light First...

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Where did the Time Go? Time for Review & Introspection…

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Where did the Time Go? Time for Review & Introspection…

Where Did the Time Go? I can’t remember a summer that has flown by as quickly as this one has. In just a few weeks the fall equinox will be upon us, and will be watching the season change. August has been spectacular here in northern Arizona. We are in our monsoonal flow, so we have had showers that make the dry earth and all of the plants happy. It usually rains in the afternoons, so the beauty of the night sky is unobscured and ever present most evenings. Saturday, August 29, was a full moon… a full “Super Moon”. It was spectacular! Time for Review and Introspection I was chatting with my friend, Donna Lee Steele, a brilliant Evolutionary Astrologer, (if you get a chance visit her website at http://thresholdconsulting.wordpress.com) about the significance of August’s full moon. She pointed out that this full moon is in Pisces, which emphasizes the emotions. Because of the way some of the planets are aspected, this is also a time to review our relationships. Of course because of my interest in the subject, I was all ears. To use Donna’s words, “How just, equal, fair, harmonious, balanced and fulfilling are your relationships?  What realizations are you coming to about what’s worked and what hasn’t?  Don’t forget to include two of the most important relationships each of us has:  the relationship with your self and your relationship to the Divine Source that created you.” Donna always asks the hard questions and makes you dig deep. I set about musing over the questions she posed. I thought about my relationships, relationships of my family and friends, and all that I’ve learned. One of my family members is young, just starting out after graduating from high school. She so wants to be in a loving relationship. She is very poetic and wrote, “I will love you the way I always wanted to be loved.” After having done my review at Donna’s behest, I was compelled to respond to the beautiful young woman who made the comment mentioned above and wrote “Love YOURSELF the way you want to be loved, and you will attract the lover you want… the Law of Attraction.” Upon responding to her, I realized that, naturally, I need to take my own advice. It’s Time During the review of my relationships I had the opportunity ask myself Donna’s questions and come up with lots of answers. It’s not only time, but way past time to let go of old patterns, of old ways of thinking, of the way and what I think about myself, the way I treat myself and the treatment I tolerate from others. It’s time I love myself the way I want to be loved. In my musings on relationships and love, a poem from L&OD came to mind. The thought processes are shifting. I feel a poem coming on…   It’s Time It’s time, I know I need to let you go Down to my very core I just can’t do this anymore I accept, I can finally see that “You and Me” just can’t be So full of pain, so full of regret will I ever be able to forget you It’s time, I know I have to let you go Down to my very core I...

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Independence and Freedom!

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Independence and Freedom!

Independence and Freedom WOW! Where did July go? This month has been a whirlwind of summer activities that went by so fast! The month and my monthly blog post almost got past me. I’ll try to get it done on July 31, before midnight and get it in just under the wire… not so sure I will make the deadline! All the Fireworks and Musings I am sure that I am not the only one who LOVES the fireworks that come with the 4th of July. The spectacular aerial display that elicits authentic Ooooooos and Aaaaaaahs of appreciation for the light show are a favorite of mine. Afterward, I always end up pondering independence and freedom, two things that should never be taken lightly. Not meaning to sound cheesy or ultra-patriotic, I find myself feeling deep gratitude for the freedom and independence I enjoy. With that comes more thoughts of how freedom and independence have played out in my relationships which ultimately leads me to my journal for some review and more introspection. Freedom and Independence from … As I noted in a previous post, writing L&OD moved me from pain to gratitude… from Darkness to Light. Using my journal as the impetus for writing a book pushed me to examine all of my relationships and the emotions and lessons that were part and parcel of them. This process was messy, and was like ripping the scabs off of wound after wound to accelerate the healing process. Ultimately the healing began, and forgiveness of self and others found its way into my heart. The healing was accompanied by a sense of freedom and independence from dysfunctional damaging relationships of all kinds, and especially the dysfunctional damaging relationship with myself. Now I am able to live in gratitude for all of the lessons I have learned… especially the difficult ones that I was dragged through kicking and screaming. I feel a poem coming on… All the Beautiful Bastards in My Life I absolutely love I absolutely adore all of the beautiful bastards who’ve been in my life You who’ve taken me as girlfriend, as lover, as wife You have helped me become who I am You have traveled difficult roads with me walked me through challenges, difficult tasks pushed me to grow, change and shed mask after mask Y’all had it rough… I gave you a run for your money Y’all had it tough… having me in your lives wasn’t easy You made the difficult choice of sticking it out to help me grow You dragged me kicking and screaming toward what I needed to know I apologize for any pain I caused you I apologize for any discomfort I brought your way My deepest thanks are sent to you on kisses for sticking with me many thanks on blown kisses for helping me become who I should be You Guys Rock! “All the Beautiful Bastards in My Life” from Love and Other Disappointments, by R.D.R. Nevara ©...

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June and Its Full Strawberry Moon

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June and Its Full Strawberry Moon

June and Its Full Strawberry Moon It’s the end of June, and oh, how this month has flown. I do love this time of year so very much! Being an educator for many years, I have always loved the time off in the summers that is heralded with the coming of June. Of course, my summer time gets eaten up with taking classes to maintain my teaching certificate and working extra jobs to support myself over break, but there are so many things that are so magical about this time of year. How Does Your Garden Grow? We are above 7000 feet herein Flagstaff, so it stays cold until the end of May. When June arrives, it is time to get dirt under your fingernails playing in your garden. Immense joy comes from watering, weeding and doting on all of the plants under your care over the next few months. Eating freshly picked veggies from the garden, vases filled with brilliantly colored flowers from the yard, waiting for fruits to ripen on the trees – what is not to love about all of that? There is time to linger on walks with my beloved poochies, Luna and Vinny… wading in the river, rolling in the grass, resting in the sun, snacking on a picnic lunch in the shade of huge Cottonwood trees. There is ample time to sit on the patio for hours cultivating the creative garden of my mind writing and drawing… putting all manner of ideas to paper in words and images. I do, indeed, love this time of year. Warm Evening Breezes and Sparkling Night Skies As mentioned before, we are above 7000 feet here, and that, coupled with the fact that the city has regulations regarding dark night skies in and around Flagstaff due to the three observatories located here, guarantees spectacular sparkling nights. Sitting in the dark on the patio sipping tea, listening to music, listening to the crickets chip, feeling a warm breeze, and looking at the spectacular ski above is, in my estimation, heaven on Earth. Because of our elevation, dark skies and wide-opened spaces, the summer full moons are especially beautiful and romantic. They rise as huge orange orbs biting a chunk out of the eastern horizon and make their nightly treks across the indigo sky toward a place of rest below the western horizon. It is absolutely breath-taking. I think I feel a poem coming on… June’s Full Strawberry Super Moon Tonight there was a “Super Moon” Moonrise was partially hidden behind a wispy cloud that full Strawberry Moon of June climbed the night sky singing her Moon Song aloud Her tune reminded me of Van Morrison intoning his delicious jazzy Moondance Strawberry did a second chorus on her creation of moon-induced romance Coaxing your beloved, taken by the hand radio turned up, set to your favorite tune ran into the yard laughing, listening to the band held in his arms, you swayed in the light of the moon The summer night was moon-tacular with a warm breeze Crickets accompanied Strawberry’s Moon Song romance, great music, you moved with rhythm and ease but sadness set in, as there was something wrong Standing on the patio feeling the romance of the night eyes closed, cool flagstones under dancing bare feet the realization that...

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