Soul Coaching? Sole to Soul? Kintsugi! Soul to Soul…

on 9-30-2015 in Uncategorized

Soul Coaching? Sole to Soul? Kintsugi! Soul to Soul…

So, Soul Coaching®, you said?
I just had the most amazing month. I have spent the last 28 days participating in a series of activities lead by a mentor called a Soul Coach. Over a period of 4 weeks, we were led through activities connected with the 4 elements and learned how all of them relate to the Soul. Week one was air/intellect, all things mental; week 2 – water/emotions; week 3 – fire/spirit; and finally week 4 – earth/physical, the body. It was an amazing and healing journey assisted by the astute and careful attention and guidance of Kelly Chamchuk, our extremely gifted Soul Coach. This month has been full of life-changing experiences. I highly recommend getting involved in a Soul Coaching® group to anybody who is looking to do some deep work in self-discovery, self-examination, self-understanding, self-love and healing.

Sole to Soul?
Water Week, being the week when we delved into emotions, was the most intense for me. We had the opportunity to explore emotions and relationships. If you know my work at all, you can easily imagine that all kinds of things came up. I ended up revisiting an exercise we did called, “Turning Points”, and the whitewater rapids of Water Week jettisoned me back into Air Week into an exercise we did called, “Faults and Virtues”. I found myself thinking about my relationships as being Sole to Soul… I got stepped on a lot. For a long time – too long, I carried a sense of being wounded, damaged, and broken. In an effort to change my point of view remembering that, if you change the way you look at something, the thing you are looking at will change, I started foraging around in my memory trying to find a positive spin. That’s when Kintsugi came to mind.

Kintsugi is the Japanese practice of acceptance, and the valuing of something that is broken thereby embracing its imperfections. In this tradition, an object is repaired with gold, silver, or lacquer tinted with gold or silver to highlight the wear, chips, cracks, breakage, accepting them as events in the life of the item. To me, this practice is a celebration of life experiences showing that they may have caused damage, wounds… breakage, but the object – it – we – are more beautiful for having lived through the experiences. If we can become like the Kintsugi artists working with love and compassion on our chinks, chips and breaks, we can heal our very Souls.

Soul to Soul…
In the end, I realized that all healing is really self-healing. Whether looking at it through the lens of healing fostered by the unconditional love of a Soul Mate, or viewing it as healing yourself to the point where you love and connect with your Divine Self romancing your own Soul in a deeper Rumi-esque manner, it’s all about healing Soul to Soul. I think I feel a poem coming on…

Soul to Soul
I always know you’re coming, even before you get here
You push the air – move the energy in all directions
I don’t need to see you to know you are near
I sense your arrival, we have that kind of connection

Your Soul, My Soul – connected
I sense your Glow, your Light

First your Vibe arrives, then around the corner you come
The thought of seeing you puts a huge smile on my face
Resonating, tuned into your arrival, my senses hum
There you are, at last! God! How you make my heart race!

Your Soul, My Soul – connected
I see your Glow, your Light

My breath catches in my throat as you walk toward me
I anticipate your hug, your kiss, the touch of your hands
Standing in front of you, breathing you in is where I want to be
The way my body resonates with yours is almost too much to stand

Your Soul, My Soul – connected
I feel your Glow, your Light

And when we make love, my body more than tingles
We fit together perfectly, our bodies intertwine
Our energies meld and our souls mingle
How amazingly blessed I am to call you mine

Your Soul, My Soul – connected
I am your Glow, You are my Light

“Soul to Soul” from Love and Other Disappointments, by R.D.R. Nevara © 2014